Sex is on the brain, it's a natural instinct. It's unfortunate that some societies or religious groups have stigmatized or made taboo what is one of the most beautiful expression of love when done properly.
How is that achieved? Biologically, when compared to our closest primate relatives, humans don't seem naturally inclined for monogamy. The neurochemicals we produce when we experience new love are they same ones artifically produced when someone does cocaine, hits of dopamine.
So what qualities are present that make couples stay together. I've done my share of asking and like one very wise grandmother said, "sex gets better with time." This makes sense, biologically we are not wired to just be with one partner so why would people choose monagamous relationshps. Sex, as it should, gets better with time simply as a motivation.
What happens during these years? Most couples demonstrate that they open themselves up to their partner and they explore their bodies together. Couples allow themselves to receive pleasure and make a priority on giving pleasure to their partner that goes beyond reciprocity. Sex, like wine, can only get better when time is invested.
Another key element, is that once time is invested to get to know a partner that same effort needs to be invested in getting to know oneself to enjoy being a great lover and attain that level of self-awareness and satisfaction.
Men usually share that it's when a woman is most comfortable in her own skin that she is the sexiest. I can relate, confidence is sexy and body confidence paramount to great sex. It's not about wondering what position makes your body looks sexy or your boobs bigger. The best sex comes from being totally aware,open, and enjoy your body and all the marvelous sensations with your partner.
Women share sexual experience is heightened where they are in a state of mind fully capable of receiving and giving pleasure to their partner and not preoccupied with looking good.
The practice of yoga allows you to tap into and cultivate the body confidence. What a great addition to the perks that like flexibleness to trying new positions and maintain core strength and fitness. Health reports show that practice mula bandhas that strengthens the pelvic floor muslces intensifies orgasms for women.
Besides the physical results, one of the main practices of yoga is self-awareness and self-acceptance. It's the only way to truly care for our bodies by knowing and being connected to oneself. As a person begins to practice yoga, one learns to accept where they are with their physical body. One can learn to listen to their body and not push oneself too hard or too littie. Like the axiom goes, "know thyself" and most importantly, one can unite with their mind and physical body and get to know themselves better.
One yogi that I practiced with, Bryan Kest, talks about yoga like making love to our bodies. So often, he says, we practice as if we are masturbating and just trying to get off, instead of relishing in the whole experience of love making - breathing, giving, receiving, being totally open to your partner.
Tap into some sexual healing on your next downdog during your next yoga practice. Do yourself and your partner some good.
This blog has no intention to promote promiscuity, unprotected sex, etc. With knowledge comes responsibility, so please act responsibly.